Style Dilemma Solved: 10 Pieces, 10 Days

The Alexandria Stylebook team called for volunteers to join their “10 for 10” experiment: 10 pieces of clothing for 10 days. Accessories, shoes, and outerwear? Up to each participant how “hardcore” they wanted to be.

“I don’t have time. I don’t have clean clothes. I don’t like my clean clothes.”

Then I thought about it for a few seconds, without the excuses.

Truth of it is, I’m in a funk. The DayJob is demanding. The Beans have their own demands. Exercise and even eating well, which got me to my #healthyme goal a little over 2 years ago (first post in the series here, and all of them here), aren’t just in the back seat, they’re in the “way back.” I’m up 10-15 pounds from my fit, happy place, where I feel strong and sleek. My closet is full of clothes that fit the strong, sleek me much better than the now me, if at all. I have a few pieces that are more forgiving than others, and I rewear them. Over and over and over.

“So why not?” I thought. I do it anyway.

“But you don’t have time to pick out the 10 pieces,” my scaredy-cat self protested. I was up to the wall with deadlines as it started. I didn’t even know where in our house some of my “old reliable” pieces were hiding.

On that first Friday, though, I got out of bed, got the Beans ready, made my green smoothie, and got dressed. I thought carefully about what I would wear on that casual Friday that wasn’t completely casual (I had meetings).

That first Friday, I picked a simple black sweater (old, a v-neck version here), navy skinny “jeans” (old, but these would give a similar effect) a heathered blazer (similar), and riding boots (similar). I accessorized with a scarf (similar). I figured that I could rewear these three pieces with just about anything in my wardrobe. We’d see.

Saturday, we went skiing, so I “cheated” with cold weather workout wear. Then Sunday, even as I donned my church clothes, I was back to it. I added another piece (a pink shirt, old, but this army green would be a great option), but used the blazer and pants again, building to four.

As I've had most of these pieces in my closet forever, they're not available any longer, but Banana Republic always has a good grey trouser and pencil skirt, and I wore my Aerin booties from The Shoe Hive practically daily.

As the week progressed, I added a piece or two a day, until I was up to the ten. I opted to keep the outerwear, accessories, and footwear out of the count, though in the end, I wore a number of those pieces repeatedly. When it’s freezing cold, for example, I will only wear my one blue wool coat. My riding boots were a staple, and my sole pair (pun not at all intended) of black shoes - black suede booties - even garnered a “You’ve been wearing those shoes a lot,” from H.

I suppose I’m lucky. I work in two different offices, and had at least one day with meetings entirely outside of the office, so no one group of people saw me in the same clothes, even if I wore them 2 days in a row. (I do wonder if other people really would notice duplicate ensembles. Perhaps that’s another experiment.) As early as a couple of days in, I welcomed the limited choices. Not having to go through a full closet of things I didn’t want to or couldn’t wear every morning? The lack of choice felt like pure, comfortable luxury.

Capsule wardrobes are in. Stylists preach “quality over quantity.” Magazines publish article after article about the 5, 10, 15 basic pieces every woman needs to anchor her closet. I agree with all of them. While I love me a good Target find (and will “splurge” on a silly, fun piece like a Grinch Christmas sweater), for years I’ve considered possible new purchases as they fit both into my existing closet with other items and into my lifestyle. Yet somehow I ended up with a closet full of things I didn’t feel I could wear, and found myself freed by the 10 for 10 exercise.

Having 10 pieces of clothing for 10 days (if you can do the math, which I can’t, any longer, there are exponential combinations) was a relief. For where I am right now, having fewer - and carefully considered - choices let me focus on other things (like getting my makeup on daily, though washing my hair is another story) each morning. Looking back, this sort of closet should be a no-brainer for me. I’m the sort of person who can juggle a lot - as long as I maintain certain systems, like putting my purse, keys, and gloves in the exact same place every single time I come in the house. It makes perfect, logical, head-slapping sense that limiting my wardrobe choices when I’ve got a particularly full plate would work well.

Did I feel amazing in every combination? No, I didn’t. I did, however, feel polished and sleek. I felt considered, professional, and elegant. Even on weekends, when normally I’d err on the side of jeans and a T, I turned to my darker, dressier wash (albeit boyfriend) jeans and that original black sweater or one of two button downs I’d added within a few days. By the end of the 10 days, I also realized that I’d turned to menswear. I used a black skirt and a grey and black dress, but those button downs and jackets were straight up off a boy. My favorite ensemble, the one in which I felt the most kick-ass? Chalk that up to the the day when I channeled both Lauren Bacall and Lauren Hutton (and Kate Hepburn, my original trousers-wearing-idol) in a perfectly slouchy silky pink button down and tailored grey trousers.

I started the exercise as a bit of a lark. It became a tool to navigate a stressful time, and emerged as confirmation of my personal style. What I wore is what I love best - it’s what I feel best in, style-wise. In the end, you can take the girl out of...well, you can take the girl out of it, and give her boys’ clothes, but she’ll always add sparkly earrings and kick your ass while wearing red lips. At least this one will.

Would you do a “10 for 10?” What would be in your capsule? What would you consider as you selected pieces?

Style Dilemma: 10 Steps to Packing for Vacation

Those of you following on twitter, Instagram, and facebook know we're about to head East to Europe. It's been 14 years since I've been to the part of the world I consider a second home, and it'll be the first time for the Beans.

The last time I was in a German-speaking country, this is a shot from German-speaking Italy, up in Tirol.

Needless to say, we're all a little excited.

This will be our view for 3 days of the trip, my host parents' place in the Alps.

We're in the final throes of preparation. We all have our passports, and we have friends picking up our mail. We test-packed a month ago to see what luggage it really made sense to take. You see, if it were just H and me traveling, we'd pack the morning of our trip. With two Beans in tow, though, it's a different story.

This past weekend, then, we started packing for realz.

Let me set this straight: I am NOT a pre-packer. My MIL will start packing for a trip a month in advance. I pack that day. I cannot, usually, get over the idea that I have certain things out of commission while I pack, and there's always one thing I have to use up until the Very Last Minute that prevents me from closing the suitcase.

This time, though, I want to be done, no worries, no rushing, just hop in the car with at least 5 separate devices (2 cell phones, a Nook, a laptop/tablet, and the Beans' 2 cameras - maybe 3, if I take the plunge), and get to the airport with more than enough time to let the Beans get excited about the airport and the things we adults think are boring.

I'm also a little panicked about the packing. For, despite my friends' Allie (Wardrobe Oxygen) and Rosana's (DC Style Factory) advice, and Chelsea's faith (The Chelsea Chronicles) that I've got it altogether in the packing department, I'm worried.

Will I take enough?
Will I take too much?
Will I take the right weight clothing?
Will I take the "right" clothing?

That one? That last one? That's my panic. As a 17 year old heading not only away from home but overseas for the first time ever, I had no worries and no real inkling that there was a thing called "looking like an American." By the time I finished my year in Austria, my German was fluid enough that I was mistaken for native. Fast forward through a college year in Germany, then trips back and trips to Romania and Greece with H, well, I'm hyper aware, now, of That Phenomenon.

And I don't want to be Those Americans.

Despite accepting the fact that we are, after living years in Europe, decidedly in the Tourist Camp this time around, I just can't bear the idea. Of course, we ARE Americans, and we're proudly so, but you know the stereotype traveler.

So in addition to guiding the Beans in their packing, I'm selecting my wardrobe carefully. We want to step it up a notch from what we might schlump around in here on a weekend. For the Bean, she happily paired her skirts with blouses and ditched her favorite shorts for a tennis dress. For No.2, who will happily wear a suit to church, he won't even don a polo shirt on a regular day. We picked their things out last night, and we'll see how that goes.

As for me, my packing goals are two-fold:

1) Efficiency - everything in there has to be multi-purpose, and dress up or down
2) Anti-American - 'nuff said. I tried on a few pieces last night and that was the H-test: "Do I look like an American?" He chortled, and humored me.

So here's how I'm doing it, step by step:

1) Know your trip - We're going somewhere slightly more formal, even in casual wear. Where are you going? Is there any variation?

2) Color-Coordination - I picked one color story, to borrow Rosana's term, then pulled easy pieces out. For me, it's grey/black/navy/white. It all goes with everything.

3) Easy, but fitted fabrics - the easiest way to look schlumpy in any language is to be a slouchy mess. You know me, I'm a sucker for a good deliberate slouch, but I made sure to pick pieces that fit well AND are comfortable. Predictably (and is does this mean I'm old?), there's a fair amount of jersey and pique in the mix, with a few light synthetics.

4) Cross-training - I laid it all out on my bed, and tested each top with each bottom, making sure I had at least double-use out of each piece (I did the same with the Bean, to teach her).

What I thought I was bringing - 5 weeks ago. It hasn't changed much, but I have thought through it more.

5) The Pre-Pack - my new tool. With my first run laid out, we put it all in the suitcase to see if it would fit. With that information, we know not only which luggage works, but whether or not we have any wiggle room. (I'm a roller, by the way. H hates it, but I swear by it.)

6) Time - I checked IG. I posted the pick of our "pre-pack" 5 weeks ago. Since then, I've thought and considered, wondered whether I had the right things, and even bought an item or two to round things out. I should be writing it all down, as I'm a habitual list-maker, but maybe the pre-pack took its place this time (only so many grown-up, organized things a girl can do at once).

The Bean's pre-pack. Note the print-on-print-on-print pattern mixing and her own color story. When we swapped out a few things last night, we tested each of them with the others to make sure they work. There was nothing to which she said "No." Brave fashion girl.

7) Pull - Make like your own stylist and pull the items you intend on packing. Last night, we all pulled the actual clothing we're packing. I still have a consideration or two (whether to buy a pair of shorts in case we hike up an Alp).

8) The Plane - Pull the pieces you're carrying with you - we're only taking one change of clothes on the plane in case of the luggage disaster, but for the little one, we need to take more. Those, along with our outfits for the plane (all considered in the packing selections), are all set aside.

9) Don't touch the pile - The Beans and H are under strict orders not to touch the things we're packing. That goes for me, too.

10) Pack - It won't be tonight (I still have to stop at Target for those shorts I think I'm packing, and there's a load of laundry today), but by two nights prior to our trip, the suitcase will be zipped.

And the most important...

If we get there and don't have the right stuff? No worries. Go to the store and fix it. While we don't want to buy loads, we aren't going somewhere obscure. If we forgot something, we can pick it up or do without.

I promise a pic or two of my actual selections and their logic, but for now,

How Do You Pack? How do you decide what to bring? When do you zip up the bag?

Style Dilemma: What to Wear to an Autumn Charity Gala

Bear with me as I recount the "squeeeeee!" that escaped my lips when I got the email from H: "We're going."

I'd been trying to convince him we need to go to our dear friend's inaugural gala. I've been itching for a gown-wearing occasion, and this was perfect:

1) cause we support
2) friend we support
3) dramatic venue worthy of a dramatic gown

Now then. We're in. (More on the event itself later, it's a pretty awesome thing.)

What to wear.

I last bought - and wore - a gown about a year after The Bean was born, to the Washington Choral Arts Society Holiday Concert and Gala. I'd found a slinky burnt silk halter number in a forgiving charcoal grey at the BCBG outlet in Atlantic City for beyond cheap (honestly one of those times when you buy it purely because it's such a bargain, knowing you'll use it at some point. I did.). It was perfect for sharing a table with the Kazak Ambassador.

Seriously.

Fast forward 5 or so years, and while the grey gown is still a favorite, I gave it up in my closet cleaning. Too big, and not really alterable. Hopefully, it's found a home somewhere.

We're the worst married people ever. No idea where the rest of our wedding pictures are, and so no good gown pics. This will have to do. Unless you want to click over to the "blacked out" picture I posted after the wedding, before bloggers liked to be known, and thought this internet thingy was a place you should remain anonymous.

The only other thing in my closet (ok, not quite, but as a completely formal gown) worthy of a casino-themed gala with a bunch of very successful, smart folks? My wedding gown. Also seriously. Unfortunately, it's a) never been cleaned (bad bride), and b) I need to get it altered (Note to self: bump those alterations to the top of the style to-do list. It's gala season, and you just never know.)

So I'm gown-less, and the event is a week away. I have literally no time to go shopping (we're away at a wedding this weekend), so I thought...

Let's try this Rent the Runway thing all the young people are talking about.

Step 1: Pinterest. I wanted to remind myself what has "called" to me from the floor-length, dramatic world.

Sparkly. Duh. (Patricia Bonaldi)

Structural simplicity + warrior-like metal (Stella McCartney)

Apparently clashing colors + massive bow (via)

Simple + train (Rochas)

Deceptive demure lace (Tom Ford)

There are waaaaaaay more than these over on my I Just Need a Gala Pinterest board. We'll hope I have occasion to call on the board again, soon, right?

Step 2: To the Rent the Runway site.

I signed up (I'm sure it's old news, but there's a helps-make-it-worth-it $25 off your first rental). Then I went straight to the Dresses link and applied filters for my size and for length (long). The list seemed overwhelming at first, so I returned to the Designers link and checked a few of my red carpet favorites and my hopefuls (Catherine Malandrino, Carolina Herrera, Calvin Klein Collection). That helped get me started.

After browsing and browsing, I had a bunch of gowns "hearted." Then I asked H his opinion. Interestingly, he went for more voluminous tops (Dolman sleeve, draped neckline) and almost all black. His comment? He was a bit underwhelmed by the colored offerings.

He has high, fashion-forward expectations.

Next? The Beans. There's a certain truth in asking a 6 year old girl and almost 4 year old boy their opinion on fashion. If you have them available to you, I highly recommend you use them. They cut to the chase and know their client exceptionally well. In my case, Bean No.2 was the more critical eye, asking to see different choices, then saying "No" after looking at them more closely.

Then, I asked the internet. Yup. It's a useful tool, folks. Now, I happen to have a group of friends whose style cred I trust who are all on Twitter and Instagram, so it might not work for everyone, but I've found I get some good thoughts out there. So last night I tweeted a few and IGed some more (check me at DCCeline for both, if you're not already following).

Here's what's in the running.

All-over sequins + draped low-cut back (The Beans' pick, Badgley Mischka)

Illusion bodice + high-waisted skirt (Catherine Deane)

Plunging neckline + color (H's pick, Issa)

Structural black + white (Narciso Rodriguez)

Edgy oversized bow + unexpected (and hard-to-wear) color (my obsession, Viktor + Rolf)

Truth be told, there are about a bazillion more, and some that line up pretty well with my Pinterest inspirations (this Viktor + Rolf recalls the Stella McCartney, for example), but as I browsed, I realized that much of what called to me from the Great Electronic Bulletin Board shows up here.

Now it's just a matter of picking one.

Sigh.

My plan: I'm going to pick one to arrive Monday, and hope it works. If it doesn't, there's still time to use the almost legendary customer service and get another turned around in time for the event.

And then I just have to figure out the accessories.

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Lastly, folks, for those of you in the DC area, and who might just have Thursday, October 24th free, here are the details for the inaugural gala for the White Hat Society. Cyber security leaders banding together for children? Hard to say no. If you're up for it, or just otherwise want more information, please get in touch via email (over on the Who's That Girl page)

Style Dilemma Solved: What to Wear to a Charity Cocktail Party

Earlier this week, I wondered whether I'd find a dress for a charity cocktail party at the District Sample Sale. Of course I don't have anything in my closet I deem appropriate and on point. It's an established crowd, and I'll see longtime colleagues. Nothing I have felt right.

First stop at the DSS? Zoe Boutique. I pulled a swath of heavenly black pleats from the rack, pulled it on over my clothes.

Sold. And at $79, this Waverly Grey frock was a steal. (Pardon the grainy selfie. Only shot I have.)

But I still wondered whether it was "too much." So I finally caved and called the hostess. "Not quite cocktail" was the answer. She's wearing a dress, but not a cocktail dress. Some folks will be coming from work, but then the older crowd tends to dress for these events.

Still conflicted, I turned to twitter. And the best advice of the night, even though it does keep me from the hoped for emergency shopping, came from, of all places, a chef.

Cogito Ergo Sauté, you see, is a personal chef service. Who would know better than the person creating the canapés?

I will be wearing the dress.

Style Dilemma: What to Wear with the Corporate Polo Shirt, Rehashed

A friend messaged me today:

Help! I need your fashion advice! We are going on a business trip and must wear the [unfitted, cream-colored corporate polo shirt] for one of the sessions! Advice to make this cute? Black capris and a belt? I'm super curvy - top heavy, tiny waist, ample hips! Help!

[cue Superman theme music]

DC Celine to the rescue. I responded.

I actually had the same dilemma last year (and again this year). I did exactly that, and paired with interesting ankle-length pants and pencil skirts. Unless you're under corporate color restrictions, I'd say pick some colorful bottoms, patterned even (since the polo is cream), and belt away - it's a great solution!

I also went unbuttoned as much as I dared, and wore a single-color or seriously glam crystal statement necklace.

I was so thankful when our polo turned out to have a women's option that was fitted, and had a nice, longer placket with a higher standing collar. So much better.

Her response, which had me rolling:

You were lucky. Mine was ordered for me by the office and without consulting at all. Honestly, I'm not even sure it will fit - I haven't tried it on. Now wouldn't that be just awful? That might just solve my dilemma.

I think in my next life, I will own a company that makes t-shirts and polos for company conferences and then likely be able to retire by 40.

Truth be told, readers, this is one of the most perplexing dilemmas out there. It's not difficult to devise a solution, but why, oh, why must we be in this boat to start? I'm all for branding and company visual recognition, but really? A poorly-fitting shirt is the solution.

Anywho, here's what I did this year, which is similar to what I did last year. Very, very similar.

From left to right, then top to bottom: Day One printed Gap pants (last year) + Queen Bee Designs green quartz necklace; Day Two Target grey textured pencil skirt + LOFT crystal necklace (last year); Traveling Day Converse One Star knit top, Halogen French terry skirt; Last Day dinner Converse One Star shrug cardigan, bronze tank dress scored at Nordstrom Rack; Meeting JR Madewell top, conference bandana.

And for those of you who really, really, really want to research the issue, here are the earlier posts, along with one on dressier conferences.

Fitted Style: It's Called a Measuring Tape (August 2012, in which I opine on the usefulness of a measuring tape and report out on my OperationBoothBabe ensembles, aka conference wear)
Style Dilemma: What to Wear to a Conference (July 2012)
What to Wear: Academia Meets Style (September 2006)

Style Dilemma: Finding the Grownup Overnight Bag

This is my dilemma, folks. Usually, Style Dilemmas come from readers and friends, or even from family. But in this case, well, here’s my story.

In January, H had his Big Company Holiday Party at the American History Museum. It was a crazy time, and I’d barely thought about what to wear. Fortunately, both of the dresses I bought for his reunion were an option. Nor did I need to think about shoes. The I-Could-Wear-Them-Every-Day Stuart Weitzman patent platform pumps I bought for the reunion (a more than worth it investment I’d recommend you consider) worked for both dresses.

So we could have a little alone time, H booked the night at The Willard. We certainly don’t live far from downtown DC, but not having to worry about what time The Beans would wander into our room (invariably early, when we’re out late)? Heaven.

We were late, we were rushed. I tossed my shoes, underwear, and next day morning clothes into my gym bag. It’s the smallest thing I have. The dresses went in a leftover store garment bag.

We ran out the door and hopped in the Uber. I mean, if we’re going to stay at the Willard, we should arrive in style, right?

We pulled up, and the doorman opened the door. I stepped out, and our driver handed me my bag. And then I went to walk through the lobby at The Willard. With my gym bag. I decided right then and there I need a new overnight bag. Well, I need an overnight bag, because a gym bag doesn’t count. I’m a nearly-40-year-old woman who counts herself among the relatively stylish (presumptious, I know), and my bag looks like I’m in high school.

Thank you, Mr. Bellman, for snapping this before we stepped out to party with Kermit, Dorthy's ruby slippers, and the American Flag.

Well, I still haven’t bought one, but I’ve thought about it. Often. And on the eve of my BFF’s 40th, when I’ll drive north to PA to celebrate with her for one night, I packed, and again I wondered which bag to use. My trusted and reliable L.L. Bean rollerbag is too big for a t-shirt, shoes, a dress, toiletries, and a sweater. Oh, and a clutch. I won’t be able to find a solution in time (gym bag, you win again), but I searched out a few small, stylish, and hopefully durable options.

Herschel Novel, Rib & Hull Heirloom Tote, Adidas Perforated Hold All (yes, I know, no gym bags, but this is a decidedly grownup one. Picture yourself arriving for an overnight in a hipster hotel on the LES, perhaps?), Graf & Lantz Carry On

What do you use for overnight or weekend trips? Do you have a favorite? Do you use a garment bag? Toiletry or jewelry cases? Please share!

Oh, and yes, I wrote this post, then remembered...I’d posted on a very similar dilemma not all that long ago. We’ll just blame my memory loss on The Beans

Spring Style: Target Style as a Pickup Line

Friend, former colleague, and long-time reader Carrie commented on an earlier post that she almost got a date because of a dress she was holding in a checkout line. So what does this good blogger do? Convince her to tell the story. I mean, really? A date because of a dress? In the Target checkout line? Now that's Target Style at its best.

So here's the story, in her own words.

Usually, Washingtonians can look forward to two or three days of really warm weather in January and February – days with temperatures in at least the high 60s if not 70s. This year – one. And not only were we shorted on our warm days in those months, but March hasn’t offered us anything better than what most February days do – with snow on the 25th, even!

One day I needed to stop by Target during lunch for a few regular items – dish soap, light bulbs, and some shampoo – a few other not so fun things. Nothing exciting but necessary, right? A co-worker who has become a good friend went with me as she needed some baby items. When we got to the store, we went our separate ways and agreed to meet at the checkout in 20 minutes.

As a girl from Minnesota, I should be used to long winters. Well, not so much anymore. My winter wardrobe is seriously lacking in variety and color – and on this day, I was feeling a little like winter had gotten the best of me in both my wardrobe and my demeanor – still dressed in black and wearing my Merrells, not even nice work shoes. I found everything I needed, and decided to take a swing through the clothing, just to see if there was something that caught my eye.

Even though my view on Target clothing has evolved from ‘no way, ever’ to ‘there are some things that are worth it,’ it’s not my favorite. I would much rather be wearing Eileen Fisher or Tracy Reese (I only have one dress of hers, but would still rather be wearing it), but I can only buy their clothing when it’s really on sale, and with thought. For some reason, I have found that Target tends to come up with dresses, in particular, that I like and wear to work - a lot.

So as I swung through the department, noting that I had only a few minutes before I needed to be back at the front of the store, one piece in particular caught my eye, and even though it is black and white (not particularly different from what I was wearing, except more white), the sleeveless number with the flirty skirt and catchy stripe pattern, and particularly the skinny pink belt, still sent the message ‘Spring, Spring, Spring.’ I grabbed one in my size and headed for the counter – I have learned that one never waits for things to go on sale at Target –at $27.99, it was a little splurge that I didn’t have to really think about.

As I got to the front of the store, I saw my friend in line with a guy and woman between us. I lined up. My friend didn’t see me behind her, but I wanted her opinion as to whether or not the dress was worth it. I called to her, and the guy ended up having to get her attention for me. So with these people between us, I asked her what she thought. Hers was a ringing endorsement, as was the woman’s and, as it turned out, the guy’s.

As someone who wasn’t feeling particularly attractive in her black trench and black pants and hair that needed a touch up in cut and color, in addition to someone who is hoping to meet someone special, the guy’s ‘I would like to take you in that dress to a winery on a summer afternoon’ comment was very much appreciated and unexpected. The woman in line behind me said ‘Is that all it takes to get an offer of a date?’ and looked like she was about to head back to pick up a dress for herself.

I’ll admit I didn’t really know what to say to the guy, but if he had stuck around, I would have given him my number.

Just goes to show you - you never know what a little spring pick-me-up might bring!

That's Carrie's story. Do you have one of your own? What's the most unexpected thing that's happened to you because of something you were wearing, or even carrying?

And, if you play your blog reader cards right, and the DayJob gods don't have their way with me, I'm hoping to share how to style this ridiculously on-trend bargain (hel-LO black and white stripes! hel-LO pop of neon! hel-LO skinny belt!) in an upcoming Style Dilemma Solved post!

Style Dilemma: What to Wear to a Winter Engagement Party

Babysis emailed me a while back, and this email string ensued:

Babysis: I need DC Celine. Engagement party in the city for Jack and Jill in mid January.

DC Celine: Lol. What do you want to wear?

Babysis: Don't know. Invite just came today. It's the first thing I thought about. I'm guessing probably skinny pants and a cute top or a little dress.

DC Celine: Dress. Definitely dress. Where is it? Restaurant? Bar? House?

Babysis: www.farmhousechicago.com, 5:00, cocktails and apps

DC Celine: oh, let's make this a fun style dilemma - haven't had a good one in a while

Babysis: It's all yours!

Did I mention that this was a while back? Yeah. December 19th. The party was a month ago. But, my stylish friends, that doesn't make this dilemma any less useful to those of us looking for that sort of in-between ensemble. A 5:00 pm cocktail party is dramatically different, in dress code speak, than one at 8:00 pm. On top of that, it's Chicago in January. Even if you were to don a LBD, tights (and a fur, for heaven's sake) would be an absolute must. Which, for this retro-minded girl, is not at all an issue, but a Chicago (heck, a DC one, at this point - brrrrr!) winter does possibly call for an elegant trouser of some sort. But though Babysis landed on an H&M LBD with a dramatic back (that's unfortunately no longer visible online), here are a couple of options at the ends of the spectrum.

Retro Black + White Dress: I'm a huge fan of dresses - one & done, so to speak. I loved the 60s feel of the graphic black + white shift I found on Pinterest, then recreated it with an Alice + Olivia Peter Pan-collared minidress, plaid patterned tights (you could just as easily do flat black, if you can't stomach the pattern), and Coclico booties, to keep it edgy, grounded, and, well, winter-appropriate.

Elegant Fur + Ladylike Trouser: one of my style crushes, Hillary of The Closet Party, pinned the fabulously chic cropped fur over a higher waisted trouser. To get the same feel, which would absolutely work for 5pm cocktails to honor a newly betrothed couple, I found a faux fur jacket at Nordstrom, a classic, cozy, cable knit turtleneck from J. Crew, their Hutton trouser in a grey similar to that in the original outfit, then a cognac bootie with a stacked wooden heel (for whom, an hour after I pinned it, I can no longer find it on the interwebs). Those booties might be my favorite part of the whole ensemble.

Tartan + Chiffon: I'm a sucker for plaid, and this pair of a classic red tartan with a black-on-black dotted chiffon blouse is spot-on (did I really just type that? I did. I'm sorry.). Kohl's has a pretty (and sequined) filmy blouse, and when you use a basic black tight under L.L. Bean Signature's just-as-classic Macleod of Harris plaid skirt, and my perfect Weitzman pump, you have a classic, wintry elegance perfect for toasting a newly bethothed couple.

What I've realized as I put these together? Barring the little extra bling many of us would switch out from a day at the office to go out for even cocktails (cocktail ring, sequined clutch, or a big medallion that would just be perfect with the turtleneck), these 3 ensembles are ones I'd personally wear to the office. 5pm cocktails call for a certain elegance, to be sure, but that elegance can be oh, so useful in the professional world.

Update: When I tweeted my post this morning, Nordstrom very nicely responded. I'm always a little awestruck when a large retailer takes the social media time to respond to something (but hey, that's what I hoped for when I included them in my tweet, right? Careful what you ask for.), but I took a chance and asked them about the Mystery Booties in the Elegant Fur + Ladylike Trouser ensemble. Sure enough, not only do they exist in This Season (always a challenge when you're repinning things all over Pinterest-Kingdom-Come), but they still have them, allbeit in a slightly different color. They're the Newbury Bootie from rag & bone.

I may not actually run to buy them (though I'm sorely tempted), as they're a steep (even for this shoe-a-holic shoe-anista) $495, never mind the reviews say they're a bit uncomfortable. That being said, the customer service lesson is one other retailers should heed: it took them maybe 30 seconds to look it up and track it down...and may have a sale because of it.

Style Dilemma: Easy Fashion to Make it Through the Holidays

Whether you have Beans or not, the holidays are crazy. If you're in Government work, like I am (and so much of the DC-area world is), it's a particularly crazy time of year. We make lists, we check them twice.

Then we decide what on that list ain't gonna happen.

I know I'm not alone in setting lofty holiday goals, whether for decorating, card-writing, or baking and cooking. Heck, not even my house cleaning meets my own holiday goals (you know that to-do item about cleaning out all of the closets for the holidays so we can give to charity? yeah).

So in the madness, I find that especially at this time of year, I have a fashion and style uniform. Pieces and tricks I turn to, that I know will keep me looking presentable, and maybe even fashionable, no matter how little time I have or sleep I've gotten the night before. Here's what I realized this morning, as I put on my concealer, powder, and lipstick in the car visor mirror in the office park parking lot.

#1 Super-Simple Makeup and skin care: I am not a makeup or skin care addict. I barely manage to wash my face regularly. In fact, last night is the first night I re-employed my beloved Clairsonic after probably a month hiatus. But here's what I do: I can't manage to put on my face before I leave, so I carry Bobbi Brown's Touch-Up Stick and pressed powder to cover and even gently, then put on a brighter lip (these days, it's the lovely, sheer Revlon Just Bitten). As a fair skinned girl with blue eyes, the pale powder and bright lip make my eyes pop and me look less exhausted. At least that's what I tell myself.

#2 Easy Sweaters in multiple colors: Whether it's Target or Gap or even a beloved Henri Bendel cashmere you bought on sale on your 2006 honeymoon (seriously, but here's a Nordstrom one in a similar color), simple, soft sweaters are easy. You can pair them with patterned bottoms in the same hue, a neutral khaki (like I did today with my khaki pencil skirt) or black, or even with another bright for the practically-jumped-the-shark color blocking.

#3 Statement Necklaces: If you're moving so fast you can't do more than pair a simple sweater with plain skirt, like me, then all you need to take the ensemble out of boring Government-worker-land is a statement necklace. Whether it's a favorite one (ain't nothin' wrong with having a "signature piece" you wear repeatedly, no matter how bold - promise) or a set of go-tos, bold on black (or heck, any other color) works. And this easy guide to pairing necklace shapes with necklines from Already Pretty can get you through any shape dilemma. My favorite DC-based sources for stunning baubles that won't break the bank? Queen Bee Designs and Fornash.

#4 That Piece: What's the one item in your wardrobe, be it necklace, dress, skirt, or shoe, that makes  you stand taller, prouder, and more condfidently every time you wear it? What piece always garners compliments as you board the Metro or stop at your favorite coffee shop? Figure that out, then don't be afraid to use and re-use it. For me, it's (among other favorites) my favorite pair of black patent pumps. I strut when I wear them (they fit, they rock, and the go. with. everything.) Because even if you've worn it over and over, it makes you feel good, and you'll exude confidence, which goes ever so far in erasing the dark circles - or at least in distracting from them.

#5 Being Put Together: Simply stated, don't revert to sweats when you're exhausted. I learned a long time ago, from an Italian, ahem, friend, that if I put on an ensemble that is put together instead of schlumpy, I will rock it. It feels easier, but it isn't. Easy is the LBD that doesn't even require you to match your shoes to the dress. Easy is the pair of trousers that fits you impeccably - and a simple sweater that's pretty and comfortable. Easy is a sheer lipstick that took no time to put on and yet shows you bothered.

Those Italians know whereof they speak. In all things, really. Trust me.

Style Dilemma: 20th High School Reunion, Take 2

I'm woefully behind on posts. So. What to write? Well, a quick update on our lives...oh wait...that's all I post any more. Sorry.

But really, there is a major dilemma.

H's 20th high school reunion. 5 years ago, we shopped for his 15th. See? That dress is still one of my favorites, though I don't know at this point whether it still fits. I suspect not.

Last year, I was on a major push to get ready for my own 20th. It's a night fraught with, well, memories. Of all sorts. I still love the dress I wore to that. That dress still fits, but barely. It now has a higher-end look, what with me being all skinny and stuff.

So H's 20th is September 29th. In less than 2 weeks.

And I have nothing to wear.

Ok, that's not entirely true. We went through my entire closet the other night, literally trying on everything I own. Among a couple of other possibilities that didn't quite make the cut, I have a marvelous dress I bought in New York, but it's not quite right for the occasion. That's my backup.

I have to, upon orders, buy something new that's cocktail-appropriate, not hoochy (though I did offer to be a hoochy mama wife for his reunion. what do I care?), and not sequined. He doesn't like sequins, apparently. Who knew?

So it's becoming clear to me that what I should have done tonight is a rapid fire online shopping "trip." Guess that's up for tomorrow night, now. But before I go to bed? A quick version.

L-R: Alice + Olivia, Jessica Simpson, Adrianna Papell

Style Dilemma: What to Wear to an Amusement Park, Redux

Yes, I’ve written this post before.

It’s also - literally, don’t laugh - the post that seems to get (unscientific assessment here, I’m terrible at all of this blog stats stuff) the most random Google searches (yes, I'm working on my SEO, people. look at me, I'm a blogger).

What to wear to an amusement park is apparently quite the style dilemma.

Therefore, and because I’m stealing a few minutes between deadlines in the DayJob, I thought we’d revisit. Why now, you ask? Well, 3 reasons:

1) People apparently want to know. You ask, I answer.

2) Because people want to know, I re-read my post. And while I think I assessed the situation fairly and accurately, I’m perplexed at some of my own response. Linen gauchos? I literally don’t know what the heck I was talking about. Forgive me? It was 2006.

3) We’re going to Sesame Place this weekend. We’re going to the park 2 days. In my off moments (like driving home at 10:30 at night, driving to the office at 5am) this week, I’ve been mulling it over. And over. And over.

So let’s take a look at what I said before, and we’ll update. We’ll also update it for “What to Wear to an Amusement Park When You Have Kids.” Because it does, no matter how hard you try, make it different.

In 2006, I assesed the situation as follows (yes, I’ve been writing proposals all week):

There are a couple of issues at hand

1. Feet - walking around all day on asphalt gets hot and uncomfortable. Breathing feet is key
2. Hair - keeping it cool & not dissheveled
3. Skin - too much sun = bad
4. Heat - sweaty = bad On target, right?

New "issues" for 2012 and “with kids:”

Stuff - how I didn’t address this back then, I have no earthly idea. Except that I probably wore my favorite cargos with 23K pockets and carried my teensy little J. Crew Magic Wallet in the pocket. So what to do?

I hate backpacks. They are immensely practical, but no matter how hard they try, they are just. not. stylish or chic. Let’s not talk about those pseudo-dressy ones that hang horribly and look like a dead animal slung to your back. That being said, a tote bag is about the least practical option at an amusement park, especially when chasing little ones around. You need 2 hands. You also need another grownup (or friend old enough to stand alone) to wait with said bag while you’re on the ride.

So, my friends, suck it up. Take the L.L. Bean, Jansport, or Land’s End backpack you have stuffed in your closet (I know you haven’t thrown it out yet because it’s just plain old too useful and still in very good condition, despite all of the ballpoint pen you have scribbled all over it). Drag it out, and use it. It’ll let you be hands-free, store all your stuff (think changes of clothes, see next item), and it’s 2 days. At an amusement park. You can deal.

You know what else I’m a fan of? Rides the kids can go on by themselves where I can stand below and take pictures.

Onward. Next up New Issue?

Water Rides - Last time I was there (ahem, at least 30 years ago), Sesame Place had some water. Slides and sprinklers and such. Apparently it’s now got a full-fledged water park. This means bathing suits and changes of clothes. (See above where I tell you to suck it up on the backpack.).

I’ve debated this in my head. On one hand, a full-coverage racing suit, or at least a one-piece that stays in place seems like your best bet where this many random children are involved. But there are 2 significant issues with the one piece:

1) It’s an additional layer. Of synthetic material. It’s August. Do the dripping wet math.

2) Access. It’s a long day, it’s hot, and you should be drinking loads and loads of water, which translates to, of course, many pit stops. It’s hard enough undoing yourself if you’re wearing a t-shirt and shorts over a suit. Try doing it while keeping The Beans from touching any surface at all (why in God’s name are those random bathroom surfaces so attractive?).

My solution, which, quite frankly, may not be for everyone:

For a water-ride-friendly ensemble, don well-fitting shorts (don’t listen to what I said in 2006 about shorts), a fitted, lightweight T-shirt of your choice, and either a bikini (we are talking about access here) or regular old underwear (in this case, I’d recommend something other than cotton, because it will get wet, and you need it to dry quickly) and a sports bra or exercise tank with a built-in bra. Important? Quick-drying materials. This is the one and only time (feel free to come back and taunt me if I contradict myself in another 6 years) I will recommend you wear gym-gear outside of your workout. If it’s not a cotton T (see my WW friend’s ode to Lycra), it will dry much faster, and you will be much more comfortable all day.

Counter clockwise, from top right: Phillies Women's Lonnie Cleanup Adjustable Cap (I have a very similar one I wear all the time), C9 by Champion Seamles Racerback Tank (I've just bought a bunch of the C9 stuff at Target, and while I haven't worn them much, love the fit, the colors, and the styles)  Women's Converse One Star Neon Oxford - Pink (my missing ones are grey, and have a Really Cool Print Double Tongue), L.L. Bean Deluxe Book Pack (mine has lasted me more than 20 years, 2 years overseas, and now 2 Beans), Great Adventure's Green Lantern (yes, that's Great Adventure. I couldn't resist putting it in just for my dear Tri-State-Area readers), Sesame Place (wish me luck), Purell Hand Sanitizer (the little hang-on-any-bag tags rock. an absolute must. Or wipes. After every. single. ride.), Neutrogena Wet Skin SPF 70 (do I have to explain?)

So what did I get right in 2006? Well, to quote myself:

Sunscreen, sunscreen, sunscreen. There's nothing less stylish than a girl stranded in "lobsterland" because she "forgot" (as H is wont to do) to slather it on. Never mind there's less of a need for the fridge-cooled aloe vera when you get home.

2012 update: yes. Also, spray-on sunscreen is the best invention ev-ah.

Ballcap. This would be one of the very few times (the other would be when you're whooping it up at a homecoming game) I'd say: forget hairstyles, pull it back in DC's-best ponytail, toss on a cap, and leave it be. It'll keep you cool & sun-free.

2012 update: yes. I’ll likely sport my plaid Phillies cap. Who cares if they’re in last place? I am not, I repeat, not, a fair-weather Phan.

Layered tops. Cami [removed “sweat-wicking cotton” comment. Again, what was I talking about in 2006?), and a beach-inspired thin cotton button-down. A tunic would work well, here, too. Airy, light, and layered is key. An interesting t-shirt might do, too, but you'll be cooler if you're layered.

2012 update: if you really think you can avoid the water rides, this layered look is absolutely the way to go. It’s cool and chic. But water absolutely requires something, well, less fashionable.

Shoes. This is hard. My comfort inclination is to tell you to screw fashion & go tourist by throwing on the running shoes. But I'm going to pull back from the edge and say: if you don't already have a pair in your closet, get thee to any store worth it's salt (my cheapy fave, Target, will do) and grab a pair of what department stores so eloquently call "fashion sneakers." Puma, Nike, Michelle K, and every other brand known to woman now have fun colors that won't kill your feet.

2012 update: I’ve been debating this myself. I literally can’t find my favorite grey lowtop Chucks, and have no other “fashion sneakers.” While I’m absolutely 100% sure my suburban Target has a pair that will work, this is one day I really don’t think I can squeeze in a Tar-ZHAY run. So guess what? Running shoes. This is not the time (since we’ll be in the waterpark mode) to wear my trusty gladiator sandals or even flip-flops. Soggy feet and blisters will ensue.

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So there you have it. I might have been smoking some gaucho dope in 2006, and I will fully admit that some of my recommendations (ahem, a bikini under clothes) might not work for folks. Forgive me on that one; I’m still fully infatuated with my #healthyme results. So if this doesn’t work for you, what does work? What will you wear to an amusement park?

Also, for the record, stop rolling your eyes. Amusement parks are one of the funnest things ever. And if you disagree in some sort of snobbish, I-refuse-to-admit-I’m-an-American way, well, you’re un-American. Go. It’s like laughing out loud for no reason at all. You’ll feel better, you’ll be happy, and you will find a little bit of joy you didn’t realize you had.

Style Dilemma: What to Wear to a Conference

Next week, I head out to staff a conference booth at a Big Industry Conference in San Diego. All of our Big Wigs are going, and all of our clients' Big Wigs are going. So we have a booth in the Big Exhibit Hall.

Guess who's the Booth Babe?

We all get to wear the ubiquitous corporate logo polo, which is fine, even expected. There is something to be said for corporate branding.We'll have navy blue ones, and a red one, I think. And while I haven't quite gotten to the concept of packing for the trip yet (I'm a night before - even morning-of - packer), I do know that I have a serious hole in my closet that I need to fill before I go.

Or the conference attendees will get a bit of a show.

You see, I'm bottom-less.

I literally don't have any pants that fit. Nor do I have any skirts - at least none that would pair professionally enough with a polo shirt (my new weekend favorite denim mini skirt that hits just below, well, you know, probably wouldn't be appropriate).

So off to the mall I go.

I've been plotting a shopping trip with another recently-reduced girlfriend; we're in search of jeans. We'll also now be in search of conference-appropriate bottoms. To expedite our trip and leave more time for our jeans shopping and, well, the cocktail and dinner portion of our day, I've done a little research. Yes, it's mildly predictable in its sources, but when you're honestly looking for servicable, professional, well-fitting pants or skirts that won't break the proverbial bank, there are a few dependable retailers to which we can turn.

Banana Republic Jackson fit linen-cotton button-tab trousers: The first thought is (regrettably? predictably? sadly?) khakis. That being said, a paler color, the pretty and flattering tab front, and elegant linen blend add a teensy bit of style.

Gap Perfect trouser linen pants: Again with the khaki-like shades (when you've got to pair both with navy and red, the neutral works) and linen elegance. Since I'm flying blind on fit and size at the moment, with this new #healthyme body and all, I'm going to have to try on a slew of choices, I'd expect.

Old Navy The Sweetheart Perfect Khakis: The classic. The original. Serviceable. That being said, if they fit well, they could really do the trick. For this conference.

The Limited Cassidy Linen Flare Pants: True, they're not in the neutral tan zone, but a girl's gotta push the envelope a little, doesn't she? It's possible this fit, with the slightly higher waist and flared leg, could work. Also, a heathered blue would work as a neutral.

I am a Booth Babe, and, in my book, I should use my relative assets to draw people to our booth. That means showing my gams (will also be carefully considering my heeled shoe options, to accentuate my sculpted calves, thankyouverymuch), which means: skirts.

Banana Republic Chino pencil skirt: It's a classic, but I've picked grey here, just for a little twist. A little one. Plus, grey is really, really pretty, and I'm envisioning kelly green bowed blouses and soft autmnal knits on top of this in just a few short months.

Banana Republic Dayna ponte knit mini skirt: I know, I know, it's a mini skirt. I also know that mini skirts may or may not be appropriate to professional activities. But the color is so pretty, the knit forgiving, and, if I try it on and the cut isn't too short, well, go gams go. Pairing it with a slightly lower heel (Lillybee Kates in blush, for example) and that navy polo would have a pretty retro vibe.

Banana Republic Heritage Military pencil skirt: I'm a sucker for anything military. I love the tailored detailing on this, and the tan is just a little softer and deeper than Regular Ol' Khaki. Beyond the conference, this staple has all sorts of styling and accessorizing possibilities.

Banana Republic Welt pocket pencil skirt: The seam. The welt pockets. The color. So it won't pair (in a mildly stuffy conference setting, at least) with a red polo. I think I can swing the navy polo. And it's so very, very pretty.

(Yes, I realize that all of my skirt choices are Banana. What of it?)

Banana Republic Slim ankle pant (already gone from the site, but another slim fit ankle pant here), Gap Perfect Khaki pants in lava orange, Gap Slim cropped refined pants in citron, T Tahari Roberta Pants, Lauren Ralph Lauren Nicklaus Cotton Twill Sailor Pants, Rachel Zoe Pants Hutton Flare, Sonia Rykiel Pants Color Block, The Limited Drew Sleek Ankle Pant in pink

So there isn't anything particularly crazy in here, but these choices are all unexpected enough in either color, cut, or detail to satisfy this I-Refuse-to-March-to-Anyone-Else's-Drum Girl. Whether cropped or ankle, on-trend orange, buttoned, or bright, each of these pants (and I must say, I'm really always drawn to skirts first) has a Leetle Something. Not all of them are affordable, but some of them certainly are, and they're interesting enough to add to my closet and I can happily get substantial wear out of them.

Admittedly, this post covers Bottoms. It's specifically for those of you (and me!) who have to wear some prescribed top to an Official Function. What to Wear to a Conference still has lots of answers. There are business casual conferences, business dress conferences, and even, well, there's Comic-Con. For some other tips on conference wear, head over to these friendly bloggers for their takes:

• Vyque of Fasshonaburu asked three local bloggers to put together some conference-worthy looks, here.
• Alison of Wardrobe Oxygen authored some basic conference fashion rules, then breaks it down into a few different types of conferences, here.
• Naina of Style'N shared her fashion conference look, which I think you could definitely take to another, not-as-conservative-but-still-businessy conference, here.
• Emily of Capital Style dissects the current boys' shirt trend and puts together a look (and some options) I think perfect for a conference attendee who's both professional and stylish, here.